Self-love and self-care haven’t always come easy for me. While I love the idea of relaxing, it’s hard for me to put it into practice. Being consistent with elements that revolve around taking care of myself is usually a struggle. I’ve never been too sure why, and I’m trying to figure it out as I go.
But what I’ve learned in these last 25 years is that I have a whole lifetime to figure it out. I hope it doesn’t take that long, but I am slowly learning to let go of the need to have everything figured out.
… Which leads me to the first thing I’ve learned:
- Literally NO ONE has life figured out. We’re all just making stuff up as we go.
- Let go of the need to control things. Even the things we think we have control of, there’s a high chance we don’t. So why stress out?
- Sometimes, it’s nice to be alone.
- Moving back home doesn’t have to be a bad thing. 🙂
- One year is a long time.
- Saving money by going to community college was definitely worth it.
- Everything doesn’t have to be planned out to the most minute detail. And that’s okay.
- Skincare. Every night. That’s the tea.
- Telling yourself that you love yourself every single day works. Do it. Seriously.
- Never let go of your inner child.
- It’s okay to be open with people, but maybe be a bit more cautious with who you tell things to. Not everyone has your best interest.
- In that same vein, it’s okay to let down your walls to those that do want the best for you.
- Tell those you love that you love them every day. Whatever that looks like.
- Ask questions.
- No one expects you to know everything.
- It’s okay to be vulnerable.
- That job isn’t worth it.
- You don’t need to pour yourself into a hobby every single day.
- Never make yourself feel bad for relaxing.
- Put yourself first every single day.
- Don’t push through an anxiety attack. Breathe. Step away. Talk it out. Do whatever you can but don’t ignore it and don’t push it away.
- Only surround yourself around people that lift you up.
- Let go of people who drain you.
- It’s okay if you think about people or situations from your past. That’s what made you who you are.
- Be okay with being okay. You don’t have to wait for the shoe to drop. Love every moment of the life you are given, even the ugly parts.
- Oh, and an extra one – do things for you. Not for anyone else. It’s okay to put yourself first. Actually, it’s encouraged and much needed.
- One more! It’s okay to cry.
While I’m still working on A LOT of what I mentioned above, these last twenty-five years have been a true blessing. I am so incredibly thankful for my experiences and grateful for those around me. Some days, life feels slow. Others, it’s too fast. I can’t believe I’ve been on this planet for twenty-five years. Even though I still feel like a kid, I’m so much more. I’ve grown so much and I can’t wait for all of the blessings my life has in store.
If you’re reading this, I wish that your life brings only blessings, love, and happiness. I hope that you share the love that you have with those around you, but most importantly, with yourself.
We don’t know what the next year will bring us, but I hope it comes from positive and loving intentions.
Be well and take care.
Your Latinx online hermana,